Anxiety : The Missing Stage of Grief: A Revolutionary Approach to Understanding and Healing the Impact of Loss
by Smith, Claire Bidwell







Introduction1(16)
1 What Is Anxiety?
17(26)
2 What Is Grief?
43(24)
3 Understanding Your Story of Loss
67(18)
4 Making Amends
85(22)
5 Taking Charge
107(18)
6 Taking Inventory
125(16)
7 The Power of Writing
141(20)
8 Retraining Your Brain
161(20)
9 Being Present
181(18)
10 Something to Believe In
199(22)
11 Death Planning
221(14)
12 Death Is Not the End of Love
235(6)
Acknowledgments241(2)
Resources243(4)
References247(2)
Index249(12)
About the Author261


A groundbreaking book exploring the little-known yet critical connections between anxiety and grief, with practical strategies for healing, following the renowned Kübler-Ross stages model

If you're suffering form anxiety but not sure why, or if you're struggling with loss and looking for solace, Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief offers help - and answers. Significant loss and unresolved grief are primary underpinnings of anxiety, something that grief expert Claire Bidwell Smith discovered in her own life and in her practice with her therapy clients. Now, using research and real life stories, Smith breaks down the physiology of anxiety, giving you a concrete foundation of understanding in order to help you heal. Starting with the basics of What Is Anxiety? and What Is Grief? and moving to concrete approaches such as Making Amends, Taking Charge, and Retraining Your Brain, Anxiety takes a big step beyond Elisabeth Kübler-Ross's widely accepted five stages to unpack everything from our age-old fears about mortality to the bare vulnerability a loss can make us feel.

With concrete tools and coping strategies for panic attacks, getting a handle on anxious thoughts, and more, Smith bridges these two emotions in a way that is deeply empathetic and eminently practical.





Claire Bidwell Smith, LCPC, is a therapist specializing in grief and the author of two books of nonfiction. Claire holds a bachelor's degree from The New School University and a master's degree from Antioch University. She is a licensed therapist in both California and Illinois and has a thriving private practice in Los Angeles.





Fear and loathing and sickness unto death—it's enough to put a person into a fretful tailspin, the subject of this useful work of self-help.Why do so many people fall apart? As psychologist and grief therapist Smith (After This: When Life Is Over, Where Do We Go?, 2015, etc.) notes, it's likely that underlying the anxiety that produces such effects there's unresolved grief—e.g., a loved one has passed away, but in our culture's insistence on moving on, we have not adequately acknowledged and processed the passing. The author recounts that the "predominant symptom" she sees in those experiencing grief is not anger but anxiety—and if we don't know how to deal with grief, we know even less about anxiety apart from throwing medications at it. Smith assures readers that "the anxiety you are experiencing is normal," welcome words given that those experiencing anxiety too often feel they are doing so in isolation and shame. The author notes that while the brain is processing the separation, regret, and other emotions accompanying loss, that loss is also tangible: "We are forced to rearrange our lives to accommodate for the absence of this person." In discussing that rearrangement and those emotions, Smith turns from the canonical work of Elisabeth Kübler-Ross to more recent practitioners, such as Thomas Attig, who analyzes the changes that accompany loss, including, inevitably, changes in one's own identity, a potential cause of grief all its own. Sometimes awkward, sometimes obvious, Smith's book is formulaic, one story, anecdote, clinical note, and exercise following on the other ("Let's check in with your level of anxiety"; "Now let's get you writing"), and there's a sameness to the proceedings that can dull the luster of that insight. Still, that insight alone, linking anxiety to grief, is worth the price of admission. If Smith's ideas of "resilient grieving" help even one reader cope with the trauma and fearful thoughts of a n xiety, she will have done a great service. Copyright Kirkus 2018 Kirkus/BPI Communications. All rights reserved.






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