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| How to change someone you love |
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| How to change someone you love
by Brad Lamm | |
Alternative Titles
| How to change someone you love: four steps to help you help them | |
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Summary
| A powerful, ground-breaking book that shows you, in concrete steps, how to stop a loved one from engaging in self destructive behavior. * Stop your husband from drinking himself to death. * Don't let your brother lose it all to gambling. Get your kid off drugs. * Motivate your best friend to lose weight. * Make your spendthrift brother-in-law stop maxing out his credit cards. * Get your sister out of an abusive relationship. * Erase anger in your co-worker. * If you're tired of watching your spouse, child, relative, or best friend go downhill, dragging you with them, How to Change Someone You Love will help you turn their lives around. * You don't have to endure behavior that is unhealthy, abusive, possibly deadly, and that threatens to unravel relationships. * You can change it. * Many books will tell you that you can't change anyone. * They advise you not to even try. * The problem is, they ignore the tremendous power you actually have to change people. * If most books about change are written for the addict or troubled person, How to Change Someone You Love reaches out to the loved ones who know that change is critical and urgent. How to Change Someone You Love is not just a self-help book; this is a help-you-act book. "Brad Lamm's step-by-step approach empowers families and friends to change their loved ones through compassionate, caring and continuing support."-- Dr. Mehmet Oz. | |
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Genre
| NonFiction | |
| Health, Mind and Body | |
| Psychological | |
Topics
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| Introduction: Change Begins | p. 1 |
| Part I | At The end of Your Rope Is Hope | |
| 1 | You've Got the Power! | p. 7 |
| 2 | Old Dogs, Leopards-and Scorpions Too: Debunking the 5 Myths of Change | p. 31 |
| Part II | My 4-Step Program for Creating Change Now | |
| 4 | Step 1-Craft a Circle of Change | p. 75 |
| 5 | Step 2-Deliver the Invitation to Change | p. 100 |
| 6 | Step 3-Champion the Change | p. 131 |
| 7 | Step 4-Care for You | p. 150 |
| Part III | Overcoming Common Barriers to Change | |
| 8 | What Are You Afraid Of? | p. 163 |
| 9 | Claim Your Number One Source of Power | p. 185 |
| 10 | Bring Down Blockades to Renewal | p. 209 |
| Part IV | Practical Applications: Cope With The People in Your Life and Restore Your Relationships | |
| 11 | Stop People from Self-Destructing | p. 227 |
| 12 | 12 Ways to Break Anyone's Most Troublesome Habits | p. 255 |
| Epilogue: Develop a Sense of Urgency | p. 268 |
| Appendix I | Resources | p. 271 |
| Appendix II | Some Helpful Forms | p. 284 |
| Selected References | p. 289 |
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A powerful, ground-breaking book that shows you, in concrete steps, how to stop a loved one from engaging in self destructive behavior. * Stop your husband from drinking himself to death. * Don't let your brother lose it all to gambling. Get your kid off drugs. * Motivate your best friend to lose weight. * Make your spendthrift brother-in-law stop maxing out his credit cards. * Get your sister out of an abusive relationship. * Erase anger in your co-worker. * If you're tired of watching your spouse, child, relative, or best friend go downhill, dragging you with them, How to Change Someone You Love will help you turn their lives around. * You don't have to endure behavior that is unhealthy, abusive, possibly deadly, and that threatens to unravel relationships. * You can change it. * Many books will tell you that you can't change anyone. * They advise you not to even try. * The problem is, they ignore the tremendous power you actually have to change people. * If most books about change are written for the addict or troubled person, How to Change Someone You Love reaches out to the loved ones who know that change is critical and urgent. How to Change Someone You Love is not just a self-help book; this is a help-you-act book. "Brad Lamm's step-by-step approach empowers families and friends to change their loved ones through compassionate, caring and continuing support."-- Dr. Mehmet Oz.
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In this self-help guide to helping, the founder of Intervention Specialists addresses the spouses, parents, and friends of addicts whose lives are out of control: "loved ones who know that change is critical and urgent." Having struggled with drugs and alcohol himself, Lamm began the difficult road back to sobriety when a friend organized an intervention; here, the deeply dedicated counselor presents a four-step method based in his experiences on both sides of the process. Showing how easy it is for well-meaning people to fall into the power trap of "nagging, prodding, manipulation or threats," Lamm details methods for successful intervention, using a group of friends and family to form an ongoing support group (a "circle of change") that will confront the abuser as a first step (with "words of encouragement, truth¿ and the warm protective embrace of love"). Lamm also addresses inevitable setbacks, and the stress faced by members of the support group, with practical methods, anecdotal illustrations and a comprehensive resource guide. As a thorough guide to helping substance abusers find help, this makes a valuable addition to the self-help shelves. (Jan.) Copyright 2010 Reed Business Information.
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